We have a couple friend, we have known them for almost 7 years. For the past year or so, things seem to have gone down hill. My husband and I are both feeling the same way about it. We only get calls when they want something. If we do end up hanging out with them, it just feels awkward and uncomfortable. Like they talk about us behind our back a lot. And we just don't seem to have anything in common anymore.
So we are at this point where we don't know what to do. We'd like to just cut ties, free and clear. But we don't want to go into a discussion with them as to why. What do you say,"its not you guys its us". So we have decided to just be cordial. Just politely decline the few invitations to functions, be nice and talk when they call (again they only seem to call when they want something, or it benefits them) and just call it good.
I am no good at being the "Dumper"...... and it makes me sad to lose a friend. I just feel like we are at that point in our life where this is the best decision, for all of us. Because there is no point in being around people what make you feel awkward (and a little fake) while being around them.
I don't know if its the pregnancy hormones, or the fact that in 19 days I turn 30, but I am just tired of the high school type drama. Aren't we all adults around here? Why talk behind peoples backs and act like catty 15 year old girls.Why not just treat people how you want to be treated. Perhaps this is how they want to be treated?
Have you ever had to be the "dumper" in a friend relationship? If so, How did you handle it?
I found these "sayings" on pinterest, and they just kinda say how I feel about the situation
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