Saturday, May 26, 2012

Last days of being an only child

Its been a long few days. I am done and over being pregnant. Just reached the point where I am cranky (crankier), in pain, ready to meet this little guy, and just get the delivery over and done with.

Until I looked over at Jakah and realized his whole world is about to be turned upside down.

He will no longer be the only little boy around here.
He will no longer be the "baby" or an only child.
He will forever have to share his mom and dad.
He will forever be the big brother, the one Jensen will look up to.
The boy who will guide his brother threw life, and hopefully be his friend.
super hero

And it makes me a little sad knowing we only have a few weeks? (days? hours?) left of it just being the two of us.

I need these last few days to be just about him, because who knows when it will only be him again. Perhaps never.

Jensen is an infant, he won't notice or care who feeds him, changes his diaper or holds him. But Jakah will. So I need to spend extra time with him, take him to do special things. Just the two of us.
<3
Does anyone have any tips on how to make it an easier transition from one kid to two?

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  1. Awwww...I remember so vividly going through this! And you are so right...Jensen won't really remember who is changing his diaper or holding him...and if you do breastfeed, you'll be spending about 90% of his waking hours with him attached to you! Spending as much one-on-one with Jakah will be valuable. My kids have very little 'rivalry' over my time and attention, I think because I did that...focused on the big sibling as much as I could when the baby was born. Not to say they don't fight over stupid stuff...but I don't get any sort of resentment regarding having had more kids. And as an only child I want you to know you are giving Jakah the most AMAZING gift :)

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    1. Its so great hearing about others experiences with this. I won't be breastfeeding so it will be easier to spend more time with Jakah. Hopefully it will be an easier transition for all than I am imagining it will be

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  2. I have two little boys---and it really is the BEST gift you could give your oldest! It was really hard for me to go from one to two before the baby was born because you do feel guilty that you will not be spending every waking moment focused on just one. But once the baby comes, you will naturally share your love between the two. It will come a lot easier than you think---you spend time with the little one between nursing/feeding and holding, but you will put him down more in a bouncy/swing/etc. or let others hold him more as you spend time with the older one! In the beginning, just be more lax about television time, routines, etc. while you are adjusting to be home. Take care of yourself and it really is an amazing, life changing time! Good luck:) Looking forward to reading more!

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    1. Thank you so much for the support. It does seem to be harder on me that I think it will be one them. But its still good to hear that it is easier and everything will work out better (hopefully) than I am imagining.

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  3. I agree that you are giving your son a great gift by giving him a brother. A friend, a confidant, a partner in crime, a built in playmate! :)
    A couple months after our daughter was born, I had her in the bouncy seat while I sat at the kitchen table reading something. Our oldest son came up and sat down next to her on the floor. A few minutes later, I looked down at them and saw that he had put these small yellow smiley face stickers all over her--her face, her arms, her stomach. She even had one on the end of her nose. And she just smiled and gurgled at him the whole time he did this. I couldn't help but look at the two of them and laugh. We got pictures of it and it even happened another time, sometime later. It's made a great memory in our family and the kids like to talk about it once in a while, even though they were too little to remember.
    So, I bet your boys will find a special way to bond.

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    1. What a cute story! I can't wait to see things like that around here :) Hopefully they get along! Ha ha!

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  4. I have no tips - I always had 2! But I think jus the fact that you are aware of his feelings and thinking about the transition means that Jakah is lucky and everything is going to be fine!

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  5. Aloha to you as you prepare to grow as a mother and as a family.

    Following ya now from naptime reviews and am looking forward to your beautiful journey. We're riding the wave of life at localsugarhawaii.com and I'd love it if you'd join us for the ride.

    xoxo,
    Nicole
    localsugarhawaii.com

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  6. I remember feeling panic right before my second baby was due, wondering how my firstborn would take it and crying over taking his place away as the only baby. But, really, it won't seem as big of a deal after the baby is born. Hang in there. xo

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    1. Oh good! I feel like its more of a big deal to me than it will be to him

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  7. Good luck to you! I'm about to make the same transition later this year - turning my little girl into a big sister - and I have the same fears that you do. It's so encouraging to hear from other Moms that it all works out (and I have faith that it will for us both!).

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    1. Good luck to you too! And it does help hearing from other Moms!

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