Wednesday, April 10, 2013

WTF Wednesday - Potty Training Sucks

I need help. We have been potty training our 3 year old for about a month now. Well actually we started long ago, but really went head first into potty training a month ago. We started with pull-ups and those didn't work, tried underwear... nope.

Finally just settled on naked potty training. We stayed home for about a week straight, having him just be naked. Things went great, he runs to the bathroom himself and goes. Only had about 2 accidents, which really weren't accidents cause he purposely peed on something. After making him clean the mess up himself, he stopped doing that.


The problem is now we need to leave the house, which requires him to wear pants. He still refuses to wear underwear, which fine, free ball it if you must. But the biggest problem is that once he has pants on, he goes to the bathroom in them. It's not like we aren't near a bathroom either. He just goes in his pants.


We have offered every reward under the sun... and nothing.

If he wears pants, he will go to the bathroom in them.

I am at a loss, and have no idea what I am doing.

Any ideas?



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18 comments:

  1. I don't know how to help! Potty training is tough.

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    1. This boy is as stubborn as his mama. And it's driving me crazy!

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  2. Maybe if you switched to underpants only at home? I know he doesn't want to, but he could help pick out a few pairs that appeal to him. Then he'll be used to the feeling of wearing something on his nethers when he needs to go, and you could add pants on top of that eventually...

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    1. He's picked out underwear at the store, and sometimes I can get him to wear them. But when he goes in them, he doesn't care. You have to make him change out of them.

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  3. At this point, I'd be getting all mean mommy on him. If the cleaning up the pee worked when he went on the floor, perhaps having him help with the laundry? Maybe if he has to collect the clothes, help put them in the wash, move them to the dryer, fold them, and put them away a few times, he will change his mind. If that doesn't work, next level would be him not getting to do what he wants until he puts on some underwear and keeps it dry. In the morning, he has to sit somewhere until he decides he's ready to wear underwear AND keep it dry. Once he has kept them dry for a few days, he can choose a fun thing for the family to do away from home, be it a park or out for ice cream. I guess it's a little mean with a reward at the end.
    Potty training does suck. Tremendously. Good luck.

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    1. Great idea, I may have to try the laundry thing. I don't understand why he doesn't mind sitting in his wet dirty clothes!

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  4. Potty training does suck ;) If it's a will power struggle they will win when it comes to potty training. Sometimes just throwing them back in diapers and trying again in a few months helps. Once they realize you don't care, they quit the power struggle. This worked with all 3 of my boys. Also, when we went out at first I used to put the super thick undies on with the plastic underpants over the top. Good luck!!!

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    1. I think going back to diapers at this point would be counter productive, but I may have to try the undies and plastic cover thing! Thanks!

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  5. Well, we did the naked thing and it seemed to work. With my oldest, going poop in the potty was a BIG hurdle for him. So we went to the toy store and I let him select whatever he wanted -- within reason. And that's what he got if he decided to go in the potty. And he eventually did. And it eventually will take. Embarrassment or being uncomfortable will finally matter more than being able to mess up his pants. Stay strong.

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    1. It's a little comforting to know I am not the only one that has struggled with this. I've heard that boys are much harder to potty train than girls. Right now he goes in his pants and he doesn't care. You have to make him change out of the dirty pants. I might try taking him to the toy store though! Thanks!

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  6. Ugh, potty training sucks. There are some good suggestions here already...wish I had something to contribute! Good luck, mama.

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    1. Thank You! It's just so challenging!

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  7. Oh how I HATE potty training.

    I'm not above bribing. For every outing he can go on where he doesn't go in his pants(since it sounds like he could do it), he can get a star on his chart. After however many stars, he gets (insert whatever prize he wants).

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    1. I'll have to start bribing with an outing, even if it's just going to get ice cream!

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  8. I've not had too much of an issue with potty training. He'll get the hang of it and if he doesn't is there a rush to train? I didn't start with mine until they were interested themselves. That really helped. And then at some point--you just make the leap. Pack extra clothes for outings...until. Until everybody gets the hang of it. My goal was as easy and gentle a transition as possible. Pushing too much or too hard has never worked out well for my brood :) You'll both find your groove. xo.

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    1. Thanks :) Guess I'm not the only one that struggles with it

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  9. Sorry Audrey, my boys were easy to train. I have no clue or suggestions. UGH! How about pull-ups when you go out. Just to make life easier for you until he decides not to go in his pants.

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    1. I feel like if we go back to pull-ups it will just be a cycle. So we are just dealing with the accidents. And making him go at least every hour if not more

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